An article recently posted on the Authentic Parenting website outlines various strategies for helping a young child who is upset or angry. It provides a wonderful explanation of those things that can be detrimental in the situation or can exacerbate the initial frustration & anger- and those that can truly help. Some appropriate responses are intuitive, but many of the negative responses are easy to fall into as well.
A few suggestions for how to help are to
(1) Get down on to their level,
(2) Look them in the eyes,
(3) Hug them,
(4) Remain present,
(5) Ask them what they would like/ allow them to explain,
(6) Sit with them, and
(7) Speak calmly.
We utilize these same strategies with children who may be upset her in trinityKids classrooms. I feel that these responses serve to show love as well as control of the situation. Please take a moment to read over some of the suggestions. It will provide you with some insight about how we help children here at Trinity and perhaps give you some ideas for home as well.
The full article is available at: www.authenticparenting.info/2011/12/10-things-not-to-do-to-upset-child-and.html.